Recently, I’ve started to notice something about myself: I have this strong tendency to avoid conflict. I shy away, not because I can’t handle confrontation, but because I just feel so tired. Emotionally tired, mentally tired—as if all my energy gets drained the moment a disagreement arises. I tell myself that growth is my goal. I want to become a better version of myself. And conflict? It often feels like a stumbling block in my path. Why would I willingly invite resistance when all I want is peace?
That’s where Mel Robbins’ “Let Them” theory comes into play. If someone wants to lie about me, let them. If they think poorly of me, let them. It’s not about letting others walk all over me; it’s about giving up control over what I cannot control. And so, as Mel suggests, from “Let Them”, we shift to “Let Me.” Now, let me find my own peace. Let me focus on what I can control: my reactions, my thoughts, my growth. The combination of these two simple phrases feels empowering.
But here’s the thing about life—it doesn’t care about our plans. As much as I try to practice letting go, I can’t avoid every storm. No matter how much peace I seek, conflict still shows up at my door, uninvited and sometimes raging.
